The Meaning of Sex(part 2)

Of love and lust; on the psychoanalysis of romantic and sexual emotions; from the works of Theodor Reik

"Between love and sex are differences of such a decisive nature that it is very unlikely they could be, as psychoanalysis asserts, of the same origin and character.

These differences are best realized when both phenomena are contrasted in their purest form; here are a few examples: sex is a biological urge, a product of chemistry within the organism; love is an emotional craving, a creation of individual imagination.

In sex there is a drive to get rid of organictension; in love there is a need to escape fromthe feeling of one's own inadequacy.

In the first there is a quest for physical satisfaction; in the second there is a pursuit of happiness. One concerns the choice of a body. Sex has a general meaning; love a personal one.

The first is a call from nature; the second from culture. Sex is com­mon to men and beasts; love or romance is unknown to millions of people even now. Sex is indiscriminate; love is directed to a certain person. "

Have you ever read the history of human sex? If not, please, do so. At least, browse it, just to get an idea of what we have gone through, as human beings.

History of Sex (Wikipedia)

Sexual energy is life in itself. Sexuality is more than just the “sex act.” Accumulated sexual energy is used in celibacy for the spiritual advancement. Sexual energy is a source of creative aspirations.

Sex has been condemned, worshiped, sold. It has occupied our mind, totally.

Most of us are fixated, which means, attached to sex in a pathological, or neurotic manner; a by-product of Mental Evolution.

Sex is a basic need. Until we accept and embrace it as a natural expression of sexual energy, we’ll be fixated, neurotic.

Marriage (personally, I prefer Partnership) has nothing to do with sex. Intimacy, on the other hand, is a need that gets fulfilled in a partnership. Intimacy can be physical, emotional, spiritual. But, that is a different topic.

Sex was anything and everything for a human being. However, self-realization was not in the picture. Fear was the primary reason. We have to consciously experience sex act, in order to transform sexual energy. Transform into something truly beautiful.

At this point, we’ll have to learn how to worship sex consciously. Being and feeling holy during the sex act.

It is not just a “sex act” any more. It is an intimate sex act. Physical intimacy is a touch. That touch we are all craving for.

We intuitively respect the need to give children plenty of positive physical attention, but only recently has touch been recognized as important to the development and health of humans of all ages.

The research shows that children die if they are not touched. I believe humans of all ages die, if they are not touched. Not right away, of course, slowly; suppressing, or dishonoring the sexual energy thus not living. The "human touch" may actually have healing powers.

We are like scared, wounded animals. Don’t forget neurotic, on the top of that. (smile)

“All truth goes through three steps. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as self-evident”

Arthur Schopenhauer

Yes, we need an authority to confirm everything we say or do. That’s how we are!

Marriage failure has been the cause of many problems, sex is one of them. Sex is life, in that it is ever-changing.

“The demand for permanence -- permanent relationships, permanent happiness, and permanent bliss -- in any field and in any area of human existence is the cause of human misery. There is nothing to permanence.”

How you are going to accomplish this is your choice. Consulting your comfort zone would be the right place to start with.

“You have to touch life at a point where nobody has touched it before. Nobody can teach you that.”