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Relationship Problems

Those relationship problems never seem to go away. Why is that? Is it possible that problems are a by-product of a relationship?

What is a problem anyway? It is a certain thing, or situation that you are not willing to accept as it is. You want to change it.

What do we want from a relationship? Fulfill our specific needs. What is a relationship without problems?

Relationship without  problems would be a relationship where all our needs and requests are satisfied. What happens when all our needs are fulfilled? We feel nothing.

There is no relationship without problems! For the reason that we always want to change; change ourselves, others, situation.  Hence, what we call a problem is a desire to change. Life is change! Problems remind us that we are alive.

We'll always have problems. Deal with it! Learn from it! Laugh at it! Make problems your ally! The bottom line is, change your perception of the problems.

Don't fear them: fear creates resistance. What we resist will persist. Love them. Love transforms. To love is to understand and accept. 

What we are looking for is always right here, right now. We don’t want to accept it; we prefer to expect it. (smile)

Over 90% of all failed relationships result from a lack of honest communication and awareness. Awareness is a key to an honest communication. 

The first step to a functional, healthy relationship is a realization, that problems are not necessarily bad. Problems (something we resist), allow us to become conscious of certain aspects of ourselves which are not recognized easily otherwise.

People don't change, they either change their perception of a problem , or simply get out of relationship.

Relationship is not a romantic rendezvous.

Relationship is a place, created by two or more people, where they "practice" an acceptance and understanding (Unconditional Love), thus, moving from fear (control) to unconditional love (acceptance). For that, we need to understand how and why we do what we do. The more knowledgeable you are about human nature, the more capable you are to accept what is. Know yourself, explore your beliefs.

Relationship is a partnership, a friendship where people can support each other in life, being fully aware that they are getting into it out of basic need – survival. Only then true intimacy and honesty can take place in a relationship.

Starting a relationship with the belief that it is for the sake of (emotional) love manifests expectations, which will never be met. On the other hand, being aware of the true motives and acting upon them with humbleness will create moments of unconditional love.

We need a true friend!

“A true friend knows your weaknesses but shows you your strengths; feels your fears but fortifies your faith; sees your anxieties but frees your spirit; recognizes your disabilities but emphasizes your possibilities.”

William Arthur Ward




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